I was in a dead end relationship, not going anywhere in life, with a two year old I was basically raising alone. When his father and I split, I had two options: I either continue being stagnant and have no way to take care of my child, or I can pick myself up and do something with my life. I applied and was accepted to Athens Technical College, where everyone was and has been a blessing on my educational journey in ECE. I have met tons of other amazing moms and moms-to-be; so it makes it easier to handle knowing we are not alone. I am now a couple classes from being certified in my major, and plan to pursue my education to at least an Associate.
I admit there are times when it’s hard having a child and trying to handle school. I sometimes get frustrated when he wants to be loud or needy in the middle of an assignment or test at home; it breaks my heart in half when he has his “don’t leave me” days and blocks the door crying. It’s really, really hard on those days…but I just reassure both of us that I’m doing the right thing for us and that when I get done we can do something fun together (and actually do it).
I know that some women feel pressured to abort because they fear that children will get in the way of their goals and dreams. However, there are so many women like me who are able to parent and get our education. Women and men can continue with school and embrace parenting. People are too quick to give up and be selfish. Making excuses for why you “can’t” do something may be easier than owning up to your situation, but it does not make it right. Please do not let the fear of parenthood persuade you to make such a devastating choice as abortion. People are everywhere out there proving that parenting while in school can be done and done well.
I don’t regret having my child. I don’t regret going to college, even as a young mother. In a lot of ways, I think I am doing better than I would have because I know he’s counting on me, and cheering for me. He’s my reason to push on and never give up. He’s a blessing, like other children should be. I hope that my story will inspire others to look at a pregnancy as motivation rather than an end or a failure. I’m proof that no matter how bad a situation may be, no matter how far gone you think you are, you can make it better. You can still follow your dreams, go to school, get promotions, etc…but with your own personal cheerleader who loves you unconditionally. Now that…that is success.
I hope more people choose life because life is worth fighting for.
Thanks, Britleigh for sharing your story!
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